Focus on what is important is the only way to live life

Focus-on-what-is-important-is-the-only-way-to-live-lifeSometimes, life doesn't go as planned. And that is ok.

As we continue to embark on the journey of life, we will experience it in it's enormity. Sometimes we will be so happy, we will literally want to pinch ourselves. Other times, we will be grateful and know that we are lucky to be in the position in life that we are in. There will be times where we will be sad and disheartened, but those, we hope will be few and far between. They will only help us build character and learn what we want out of life and what we do not.

I have had a few days of being disappointed by someone else's actions. But that's ok. They are living their life and I am living mine and at the end of the day, it's their life to live and we can only choose our own paths and learn the lessons we need to learn from our own experiences.

I really believe that no-one is truly a bad person. They just sometimes self-destruct or feel insecure and do things to protect themselves that might alternatively affect and hurt others. It doesn't mean that they are bad, it means that they are going through something and hopefully, they learn from it, but it is not another person's job to force that learning.

Be happy while you are living, for you're a long time dead.

My old Chairman used to say this to me and even as I type it, I smile. It's so true. Try and smile as often as you can and at as many people as you can. Find ways to make others smile whether it's a stranger in the street or your mother who spends far too much time doing everything for everyone else, but nothing for themselves.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step - Lao Tzu.

As we look at the path in front of us, it can be quite daunting. It can be intimidating and hopefully, it is incredibly exciting. But it is a step by step approach. Sometimes the step is so small, you ask yourself whether it is worthwhile or not. It is. Trust me. We all have long lives to live and we need to always focus on being better people and doing things that make others around us better or more confident people.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Anonymous

Wow, how true is this? Only twice this year have I felt any real pain and both times, I have suffered for a few days and then friends have been so wonderfully supportive that they remind me that it isn't worth the energy or the pain I may be feeling. To be honest, I am such a deeply emotional person and that often goes hand in hand with being creative, but with that, when I feel pain, I really feel it. But it is optional. We can always look at both sides of what created that pain and find the positive in it in some shape or form.

How you do one thing, is how you do everything. Beware.

Some people have great poker faces and they can put on the charm better than anyone. But in the next instance they can be a bully or they can be dishonest. It's all the same. So trying to be a good person in every circumstance and to ensure consistency of personality, is everything. One of my best male friends always says to me, that myself and one other friend of his are the only two people he knows that are always consistent. We don't change. And for that, he appreciates our friendships. It also has alot to do with personal brands. If you are nice socially and put on the charm, then in business, be nice and charming. Never try and take something away from someone, just because you feel you can. Do unto others, as you would like done unto yourself.

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, define yourself. Harvey Fierstein.

One part of me says, that you should always take the higher ground in life and never say anything and never hold any person to account. But if someone is never held to account, do they never learn that what they are doing is sometimes not acceptable, may hurt others or does not show good values? I am 38 years of age, and I still see bullying occur. You think it only happens in high school - right? Wrong. Bullying is around us and hopefully, we don't see it or experience it. I tend to say to bully's that I don't want their view on someone because you give them power by listening. Bully's are just scared individuals who have had something happen in their life whereby they feel they have to fight and get in first. They are all going through their own stuff and unfortunately, only if we react to that bullying do we play to their web of destruction.

Make today a better day, for you and those around you.

This blog has come to me today, for a reason. I share it with you because there may be something here you can relate to. My job today is to make it a better day for the people I love, and those that perhaps I have never met but may connect with in some shape or form.

Life isn't about being selfish and asking people to "look at me" or "I am so successful or so great", it's about a journey of discovery and exploring the world and the beautiful, unique and different people that we come into contact with from time to time.